No hedging. Be clear. You know you don’t WANT to do, so just say no. Up front.
Pay attention to when you hedge. Learn the triggers and instead say no instead of yes when you see yourself hedging
If you hedged and now want to come clean. Be open. Tell the person why you said yes but you know why the no and just be open and explain. You will save hurt feelings if you come clean then if you bail or are not 100% later on.
Powerful No: A powerful no can be powerful and help you set boundaries and priorities and stick to them
Mindful No. Be clear. Be real. A mindful No can be a helpful too for your team or partner to know your true intentions without being rude or harmful. Just honest.
A Respectful No. All of the way you say know needs to be from a soft place in your heart and be mindful, truthful and real. Speak softly. Kindly. Be honest in your speech as well.
No, Not Right Now. If you know you can help and Want to but right now isn’t the time, perhaps tell the person this and maybe you both can come to an agreement.
I understand saying no is not an easy thing, but taking care of yourself has to be your top priority and far too often we are saying yes and not tending to our own needs.
Nancy Gaines said it best when she said in a talk
“No is a complete sentence.”
That was the best thing I have heard yet.
You don’t have to give any explanation. You don’t need to say more. You can, but you don’t need to. no is a complete sentence. Just no.
Can you watch my kids? No.
Can you give me a lift to the movies. No.
Can you volunteer for the PTA fundraiser? No.
It IS ok to just say no.
there is nothing wrong with it.
It doesn’t need an explanation.
You can just say no.