Forward Facing Leader or Sugar Coated Life?

Has anyone ever told you they are looking for a “Forward Facing Leader”?

Were you left wondering,

What the heck is that?

Recently I was told I did not have the image of a forward facing leader.

In true Trixie nature, I went out on a hunt to gather more info.

Here is some of what I found:

The Hunt

What single quality differentiates high-potential leaders from ordinary contributors in an organization?

It’s their ability to be forward-looking and focus on the future. To become a better leader or distinguish yourself as someone primed for promotion, you’ll want to develop your capacity to envision the future.

WorkCoach Cafe

“…if they meet with clients or anyone outside the company on a regular basis or are responsible for being the face of the company, as in reception work, then they are in a forward facing or client facing job.”

After reading both of this, I figured out what she meant. She was trying to tell me, I was not representing myself in the best light as the face of the company…in her opinion.

In Her Opinion

are the Key Words here.

While this group organization or perhaps herself, does not feel that I was presenting my best face forward, I tend to disagree not because she is directing it towards me, but because the face of my brand is

REALITY| AUTHENTICITY| HONESTY

I am who I am online, in real life, and in everything I do.

What she felt was not correct was how I presented myself online. However, I was being myself.

The funnier thing is in her email she states that she loves me as a human and thinks I’m fabulous, however, I need to be “different” online. Um….hi did you hear what you just said?

So, you want me to be fake online to “look better” than who I really am?

No thank you.

One thing I pride myself in being REAL to a fault.

I understand that means not everyone will like me in real life or online.

True, real, authenticity to me is being vulnerable enough to really be who you really are. ALWAYS. Not just when it suits you.

I spoke my mind and I ask questions.

I have Aspergers and many times do not understand things. This type of questioning makes other nervous. This type of real speaking up about how I feel about something isn’t always the norm and thus, I get criticized for saying and doing things others would not say. They generally would not say them, because society has told us not to. I laugh in the face of society. They deem people like me, with Aspergers, aka HFA (High Functioning Autism) as

NOT NORMAL

What is normal? Whose to say the way you view forward facing is correct and the way I view it is wrong? Neither is right. Neither is wrong. It is merely an interpretation.

I am Forward Facing.

I know I am my brand.

I know I am the face of my brand and I do all I can to be the best brand image of myself inside and out ALWAYS, by the way.

I do that by being real.

By being who I really am and not sugar coating life.

How do you become future-oriented and still handle day-to-day challenges? (The Hunt)

I will admit, the last couple of year battling Colon Cancer, Fighting it, OVercoming it and trying to get healthy again had their toll on me. It is hard to look forward when you don’t know what forward is and how many years that means. But even still I did my best.

I made 1 year, 3 year and 10-year goals and plans using the Dragontree Planner, not knowing if I would live to accomplish them. I put the pen to paper and wrote it all out. I made vision boards looking and hoping towards the future.

While the ability to focus on the future separates leaders from the rank-and-file, many of us fail to understand and appreciate its importance. We devote almost no time to developing this vital quality, which then becomes a huge barrier to future success. In today’s difficult times, people need to be reminded of why they are doing what they do — and why it matters. 

Both Articles from The Hunt and Work Coach Cafe has some really good material for those in a workforce who are looking to develop this mentality better. I want to focus on people like me who are the face of the company or trying to be.

Mainly #2 from Entrepreneur.com

2. Publish content — as yourself.

Next, start publishing content regularly, under your own name — not your brand’s.  Reveal bits of your personality throughout your writing process, so people get to know you through your material.

It does not say be fake online and a different person in real life. It says Be Yourself.

Again, not everyone is going to agree and not everyone will like the style or method or way you speak, talk, or post. It also does not say sugar coat who you are or who your brand is. Being you is the best you that you can be. I am the best me I can be and sadly, if that means a group won’t like my posts or like me, then so be it. As one of the articles stated…

Why would you want to be around people that uptight anyway?

I fully concur.

Lastly,

I want to leave with you one little tidbit from Chron

Develop a Thick Skin

When you put yourself out there, you should expect to receive negative comments and reactions to everything from your hairstyle to your message. As the face of the company, you must maintain a professional image at all times and learn how to respond appropriately to criticism. A sense of humor helps in many situations, especially when the rebukes take place in a public forum. Maintain your composure and develop a routine for handling negative remarks. Take a deep breath, count to 10 or think about the money you’re earning from the publicity before responding in print, online or in person to the digs and jabs you can expect as the face of your company.

I said “Thank you” to the leader who said this to me. I also removed myself from her group and took a step back to evaluate what she said. This happened about a week or so ago and I didn’t want to react in haste or hurt.

My way of moving on was to write this blog. I did not name names, nor will I. She knows who she is and maybe one day will read this, maybe not. Not my problem or concern.

I wrote this blog to alert others of this mentality and mostly to be aware of it.

You may take to it differently than I did and that is totally fine. You are allowed. I encourage you to because I know then that you are thinking for yourself.

We have enough sheep in this world, we don’t’ need more.

We also have way too much sugar in America and maybe one huge lesson I learned from France was a little less sugar and a little more reality could do us some good here in America.

~Trisha Trixie

Links in this article and excerpts from:

http://www.huntsearch.com/viewdetails.asp?id=1101

http://workcoachcafe.com/career-dictionary-definitions/what-is-forward-facing-or-client-facing-work/

https://smallbusiness.chron.com/face-company-45488.html

http://dreambook.vision/?aff=180

https://www.entrepreneur.com/article/254048

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Personal Trauma

Have you ever experienced personal trauma in your life?
 
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I asked these brave volunteers to share their story of trauma and overcoming to maybe give you a spark of hope that you too can overcome the adversities and trials of your life!
 

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How to build a successful movement in 4 steps — ideas.ted.com

There’s a kind of Hunger Games occurring among organizations and brands to seize people’s attention and loyalty. Here’s what it takes to win power in today’s hyperconnected age, according to activists Jeremy Heimans and Henry Timms. Today, we have the capacity to make movies, friends or money; to spread hope or spread our ideas; to…

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Time to Be Fabulous

When the world is far from fabulous.
When you think you can’t give anymore
When you look at life and see nothingness
When your heart is broken beyond repair
When the rug of life is pulled out from underneath you
When you don’t know who you can trust
When you just want to hide
When you are frustrated beyond belief
When you feel less than
When you think you can’t go anymore, do anymore, be anymore…

Be Fabulous… ♥

Show them they didn’t break you
Show them you can do it without them
Show them by giving it all you got
Show them by getting back up
Show them by dusting yourself off and walking again
Show them by loving everyone
Show them by showing up
Show them you can shine

It’s Time to Fall Into Fabulous…

Want to know how?Stay tuned…

Automation: My Virtual Assistant

I hear a lot of negativity about automation, bots, etc. I too am among those that in certain cases hate the fact that I go to respond to a comment or twitter post only to find out, the person has set up bots in their stead. However, I would not be as successful as I am without automation. to my it is my savior. To me, it is my life line. To me, it is my Virtual Assistant.

Anyone who asks me how I do it all will get my first response to BUFFER as my #1 automation tool. I have heard many other tools o the market but so far Buffer has them all beat by my standards. I have been told I should own stock in this because I talk about it so much!

I am a founder of a few businesses and I have a few social media campaigns out there. I can’t be all places at once and Buffer allows me the capability to post on all of these without having to go out to each one and post pictures and images to each.

I call it “Set it and Forget it”

I generally do this at the beginning of each month. I have ten accounts and on each of those accounts I am allowed 100 posts per account. Once those accounts have posted those 100 posts from the queue then I can start over.

Sometimes I just post 100 on each and then “set it and forget it”

Other times, throughout the month, I will get various emails here and there that have articles I like and as I open them I see things I want to buffer. I click them open, hit my little buffer icon I have added in my browser bar and then chose which social media accounts I want to buffer them too. Again, set it and forget it.

Every now and then my buffer is full or there is something I want to Share Now, so I just hit the SHARE NOW button and share it right away. this doesn’t affect my queue and it post immediately to those accounts I choose.

I do use Commun.it for my Twitter for Automation as well. It helps me maintain my Twitter followers and helps keeps me engaged with them. I like it so I can follow them , tweet them and let them know I am engaged in what they have to say. Twitter is one of those sites I DO actually go to on a regular basis, but commun.it allows me the chance to keep up with the comments, tweets, retweets and followers more frequently.

Personally, I don’t think there is anything wrong with automation tools as long as you are engaging with your followers once in awhile. don’t allow the automation tools to do ALL the work.

There IS still a human behind the brand.

At least for now, right?

Until next time,

Trisha Trixie

Just Say NO

Saying No

No hedging. Be clear. You know you don’t WANT to do, so just say no. Up front.

Pay attention to when you hedge. Learn the triggers and instead say no instead of yes when you see yourself hedging

If you hedged and now want to come clean. Be open. Tell the person why you said yes but you know why the no and just be open and explain. You will save hurt feelings if you come clean then if you bail or are not 100% later on.

Powerful No: A powerful no can be powerful and help you set boundaries and priorities and stick to them

Mindful No. Be clear. Be real. A mindful No can be a helpful too for your team or partner to know your true intentions without being rude or harmful. Just honest.

A Respectful No. All of the way you say know needs to be from a soft place in your heart and be mindful, truthful and real. Speak softly. Kindly. Be honest in your speech as well.

No, Not Right Now. If you know you can help and Want to but right now isn’t the time, perhaps tell the person this and maybe you both can come to an agreement.

I understand saying no is not an easy thing, but taking care of yourself has to be your top priority and far too often we are saying yes and not tending to our own needs.

Nancy Gaines said it best when she said in a talk

“No is a complete sentence.”

That was the best thing I have heard yet.

You don’t have to give any explanation. You don’t need to say more. You can, but you don’t need to. no is a complete sentence. Just no.

Can you watch my kids? No.

Can you give me a lift to the movies. No.

Can you volunteer for the PTA fundraiser? No.

It IS ok to just say no.

there is nothing wrong with it.

It doesn’t need an explanation.

You can just say no.

With Love,

Trisha Trixie

The $1000 Club and Why I Say “No Thanks”

 

invest-with-1000-dollarsEverywhere I turn there are all these great conferences, coaches, courses and such but every single one of them is over $1000! I find this fee to be absurd! What if feels like to me is other people trying to steal my hard earned $$ for their own benefit. This is NOT the way I want to work this year. I want to offer up my services organically for those who need it but maybe can’t afford those $1000 programs. I know I can’t. How’s a gal supposed to get along in life and biz if I am always having to shell out $1000?

I go to a network function and the opt-in at the end for a gal, just like me, for her course, is, yep, you guessed it $1000 or more.

I go to a start up week event and the opt-in for the next level of the event is yep, $1000

I find this to be absurd!

They get with “get rich quick” schemes and “follow THIS PLAN” and “you too could be this rich” and yet people fall for it. How do I know people fall for it? I see my friends shelling out dollars after dollars, all the while they are struggling to pay for kids schools and meals and take care of car rides and baby sitting and wondering why none of their friends want to help them watch their kids. How can they not see that the only ones who are making the money are the ones at the top who have already been doing this for years?

Don’t get me wrong. I am not saying there is nothing to be learned by these people who have had success. There is. However. Buy their book. Watch their podcast. Keep your butt at home where you can afford it. There is so much to be learned online. In books. On You Tube. Via Skype. And so on. I just do not understand why people need to spend money on airline tickets, hotels, conferences, and such. It all just seems like brainwashing to me.

The “Thousandeers” as I like to call them, the ones telling you to give them $1000 or more have figured out…”Hey, if I get 200 people to give me $1000 Ill make $200,000 without batting an eye. I don’t have to work as hard and all I have to do is act like I know what I am talking about. I could sell ice cream to an Eskimo, so that should be easy!”

See, they are good at selling.

You, are good at listening.

They are good at persuasion.

You are good at opening your wallet.

You want what they’ve got.

you think by giving them your money you will get what they’ve got.

However, just by giving them you’re money, you fail to realize, you don’t have their life, their bills (or lack therof) their accountant, their lifestyle, and so on.

I am in no way trying to be a downer. I am not trying to be negative, although I am sure to them I am being just that.

I want to EDUCATE you.

You DO NOT NEED TO GIVE THEM $1000 or more.

You do not NEED what they have.

What I am trying to say is the same thing as what Glinda the good witch told Dorothy in the Wizard of Oz….

“you had the power all along my dear…”

YOU already have the answer you need inside you.

You don’t need someone to tell you how to have a great relationship.

You don’t need someone to tell you how to manage your money.

You don’t need someone to tell you how to do anything.

glindasez2

Guidance.

Now, THAT, you may need.

There are plenty of people, honest, good people who won’t take you for all you’ve got to help you do that. I know them. I am friends with them. They are in Chambers of commerce most likely in your area. Local folks. Mom and pop chops. A computer repair guy down the street who can fix that computer. An accountant friend who can help you manage your money and pay yourself in your own business. A healer, who can do amazing sound healing on you. An intuitive counselor, who can help you heal your broken heart.

Please consider this. Stop making the wealthy more wealthy. Help the locals support the locals.

Use sites like http://www.nextdoor.com and http://www.thumbtack.com and look around your neighborhood to find your needs. Talk to friends and family. look online. Ask GOOGLE or other sites for answers. If you are a business, talk to Chamber of Commerce or Network groups. and when you hear those crazy $1000 or more Opt-ins. Get up walk in or turn your paper over. Say no thanks.

Save your dollars and cents…common sense…

not only will it save the cents in your pocket…but it will save the sense in your soul as well.

Xoxo,

Trisha Trixie

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My Official Top 25 Colorado Summer Bucket List

My Official Top 25 Colorado Summer Bucket List

I saw on PureWow “The Official Hamptons Summer Bucket List” and I thought, as a newbie to Denver (barely one year), since there is a lot I have yet to do, what sage words of advice and places and things to do wold Google send me. I have compiled a list of websites for you to peruse and put on my top 20 for what maybe I want to do this summer! If you have any comments or suggestions, please comment below!

My Official Top 25 Colorado Summer Bucket List

  1. Perfect your dance cardio moves at Pure Barre, Greenwood Village
  2. Check out a Farmer’s Market. You’ll support the local community and keep your beach bod in check.
  3. Nab treasures from some great vintage and thrift stores
  4. Take a day trip to Pike’s Peak
  5. Go Ziplining at Castle Rock/ Castle Pines
  6. Try a cooking class at the Kitchen Table
  7. Sip drinks by the pool or my patio at the 360 Luxury Degree’s Apt.
  8. Catch a concert at Fiddler’s Green Ampitheater
  9. Stock up on some scents, essential oils, Chinese herbs and other mediatative books, cds, bumper stickers, and teas and roots from Sheepish Wellness and Healing
  10. This one is mandatory: Relax. Read a good book, draw, color, whatever, just sit downa and do nothing at some point.
  11. After breathing gross city air all year, you need to detox, stat. Get a Detox Kit from Dr. Sarah Ruderman (Isagenix) and start fresh!
  12. Try out a Cannabis Restaurant 
  13. Go wine tastingand indulge in an evening view from my favorite Wine Bar at Uncorked Kitchen
  14. Fact: Dinner tastes way better when you eat it outside. Try out one of the Denver Patio Places to Eat. Or Make a Picnic and take it outside to a park somewhere.
  15. Pack a sunshade, a cooler and a beach towel (maybe a beach chair) , then head to the closest lake (Cherry Creek or when in Wisconsin at Pickeral Lake ) Repeat as necessary until Labor Day.
  16. Summer = fireworks. Bring some fun or buy some along the way. Make sure it is lawful to shoot in the town where you choose. In the end, remember to have fun. Add many sparklers.
  17. Forgot to book a spa day at one of Denver’s Best Day Spa’s. Give yourself a day for you or you and a gal pal or you and your hunepants.
  18. Expand your art collection (or start one) by going to one of the art days on a Denver Summer Weekend. Find a piece that screams out at you. Buy it, hang it. Enjoy.
  19. Bet Brunch in town? Denver’s Best Brunch Spots
  20. Go to a Resort. Have Fun. I’ll be at The Waters Minocqua
  21. Save time going to and from the airport by using a feature we just found out about SkyRide. It will pick up up at the LightRail Stations and take you directly to the airport for only $9! That’s cheaper than parking and no worries about trying to remember which lot or stall you parked in when you get back from your tip!
  22. Oh, athleisure, we want to live in you all summer. Stock up on Athleta for the comfy clothes for summer flair, summer wear.
  23. Go for a Bike Ride for a leisurely day, relaxing and enjoying nature.
  24. Food trucks from are the rave here in Denver. got to try me something off a truck that people keep raving about. Have a suggestion? Comment below.
  25. Investigate getting my scuba diving license.

 

Links to check out:

http://www.5280.com/bucketlist

http://www.westword.com/news/100-things-to-do-in-colorado-before-you-kick-it-5123130

http://303magazine.com/2014/04/colorado-bucket-list-10-things-spring-summer

https://www.thrillist.com/entertainment/denver/the-denver-bucket-list-red-rocks-my-brother-s-bar-mayan-theater?vortexd=65

2015 Summer Bucket List

http://denver.citymomsblog.com

Summer Bucket List {Over 100 Things To See and Do!}

Trisha Trixie

TRISHATRIXIE IS A SOLOPRENEUR, EMPOWERMENT GURU, LIFE DESIGNER, PASSIVE “EXPERTISE” INCOME EXPERT, PINUP MODEL AND SPRINKLER OF FABULOUSNESS.

SHE IS THE FOUNDER OF TRISHATRIXIE DESIGNS, TRISHA TRIXIE AND COMPANY, THE GOOD OF SISTERHOOD, JUSTE ETRE: JUST BE, MS. COURAGE, AND THE PEP CLUB. 

SHE IS CURRENTLY IN THE PROCESS OF WRITING HER BOOK “FALLING INTO FABULOUS” A FHOENIX RISING: A STORY ABOUT OVERCOMING.

HER AND HER NEWLYWED SPOUSE BEN (OFTEN KNOWN AS HUNEPANTS) LIVE IN CENTENNIAL, COLORADO AS NEW RESIDENTS (TRANSPLANTED FROM IOWA, VIA CALIFORNIA, VIA EVERYWHERE ELSE) AND RESIDING WITH THEM IS THEIR 3 CATS, MISS IVY, MR. BOOTIES, AND MR. DUDE.