The Door to The Present: The Key of Inner Peace

A long time ago, back in 2011, I had a dream about doors. In this dream I walked up to a door and I opened it. I came upon a long hallway filled with many other doors. Each door was different.

One door was see thru

One door had an easy handle on it

One door had a lock on it

One door was a french door and had two doors that opened inward

One door had a thousand locks on it of varying types and sizes and colors

Each door was different…

There was door after door.

As I walked down the hallways, I would try to open some of the doors.

Some doors wold open easy and I would find myself down ANOTHER hallway with MORE doors or MANY different handles, locks, colors etc.

A few nights later, I would have the dream again and so on.

One night, I woke up and sketched all these doors.

Later, in a metaphysical course at the School of Metaphysics in Des Moines, Iowa I was with someone who was taking a dream interpretation course. I asked the leader about this dream.

They said this is my life, my opportunities, my challenges, my world. the World of Trisha Trixie and it was showing me how life is filled with many doors. Some others open for you and let you in. Some you have to knock on and allow others to open. Some you have to have the key. Some you have to go through a few doors before you get to where you are going. Some have windows so you can see whats inside before you open and some you just have to take a chance and see what is on the other side…and so on and so forth… the explanations went on.

Fast forward until now…

I have been reading books on mindfulness, peace, inner peace, being at one, being present, being in the here and now….

As I was reading Thich Nhat Hanh  this morning, it hit me…it was like a flashback to a dream…

I have been mostly at peace for some time now since 2011. Many things have happened for me and my world has changed, it has opened up, it has become different and new and fabulous in so many ways…and now I know why…

I had an epiphany…

Those doors, those doors that I dreamt about so long ago, those doors are the doors of life…

Doors of happiness

Doors of fulfillment

Doors of contentment

Doors of success

Doors of Friendship

Doors of change

Doors of elation

Doors of opportunity….

and I have gone through them to the other side…

Well, I am not quite FULLY there, however, I realized this morning that I have opened MANY of those doors. I found the key to some of them, like in a video game, while walking along, BUMP I walked over something and a bubble popped over my head and stated clearly what it was “You have found the Key!”  Which then I tried that key and other key in every door I could until a door opened. I did this over and over until other doors opened…

My key ring is full of random keys that have oepned many doors. I have been carrying them around with me, thinking I might need them again…what if I get locked out…what if I need to help someone else get thru?

Today, however, I dropped those keys so I could pick up something else. (you know in video game you can only hold so many things. Sometimes you have to drop one to get something better)

Today, I picked up the ONE KEY I need for them all. I do need to hold to it tightly, so I am making a metaphorical lanyard and hanging this key around my neck. The lanyard is simple, nothing fancy. It doesn’t need to be. Because THE KEY is the most beautiful thing in the world. I know it will always be that way. I just need to see it for what it is and I will see it as beautiful, wonderful, magical, because it is.

It is the

The Key of Inner Peace

Nothing else matters when you have Inner Peace.

Lady at the store cuts you off and gets in front of you? No biggie, I have Inner peace. Maybe she was more in a hurry than I was.

Somebody steals from you? My motto always has been and still is, the fat that when others steal from me, I know they will get their kharama AND I feel like they must have needed it more than me. I thank God for helping me get rid of that item so it could open the way for something better.

I am no expert on all of this, of course.

It is a recent revelation.

Perhaps five years from now, who knows where my enlightenment might be.

I can say however, that for my dream of doors, a realization swept over me, like a cool breeze on a hot day, that the answer to that dream is the key of inner peace.

I have felt such contentment lately, such bliss, such elation, such happiness….

Where did that come from?

The fact that I have now learned to let go and let god.

Turn the page, as my mother says.

 

Go wash your hands and visualize your problems, worries, issues etc down the drain and come out clean, refreshed and happy. this is a visualization I do often and have since i was 16 years old.

Today is a new day. Each moment is new and fresh. Each lesson is there for a reason and above all

All you can do is take it in stride and be in the moment…

Every Moment…Be Present

Whether it is good or bad that is happening to you, be present, take it in and breathe and move on…

Each day we are given choices. choices to allow things, people, places, etc to affect us in a variety of ways. WE can allow ourselves to be angry, happy, sad, and so on. The choice is up to us.

We are a result of the choices we have and will make.

Choose Wisely…and remember my motto…

When given the option of being fabulous, why would you choose anything else?

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Trixie Q & A: Everything (or close to) You Wanted to Know About Trisha Trixie

Trixie Q&A

(I was schedule to do a Q & A for a YW Resource Center that then didn’t happenbut I had all the questions ready so I figured I would repost them here and answer them for YOU, my readers)

Your background (where you grew up, where you went to school,etc )

I am a transplant. Which if you haven’t ever heard that before means I came from somewhere else. But I am a unique transplant. I was born here, in Iowa but grew up in California. Then I became a gypsy (or so it felt) I moved back and forth in my adult life between Iowa and California a few times, and many other places as well. NYC, Colorado, Wyoming, Arizona, you name it. The last time I came back to Iowa was 2006 and I have been here since. Not sure when I will be leaving again, but I know I will. It is just in me to roam.

I grew up within walking distance from Disneyland. I had a pass to go in and as I got older going to a part of the park that had a dance area for teens was what I did as a teenager. I also wen to Angels games nearly every weekend as well. And by the way, to be clear they are called the ANAHEIM ANGELS, not the Los Angels Anaheim Angels. LOL

I went to junior high, high school and college in California. For my college I went to Brooke’s College for Design where I learned everything about design including but not limited to fashion. Fashion Design, Graphic Design, how to do Magazine Layouts, Logos and such, Interior Design, Multimedia Design, Websites, HTML, Dreamweaver, and as I said, Fashion, Art, Croqois, Fashion Illustrations, and Regular Art Classes and oddly enough my most favorite being Typography. 

The schooling was very expensive and my grants ran out so I left that school and got my AA at Long Beach City College and then went onto Irvine Valley College for further training in Adobe products and html coding.

After I was married awhile I also decided to be a Genealogist and got my Certification in Genealogy (Family Historian) so I went to BYU and did that for years. I specialized in Brick Wall Ancestry and also was a Transcriptions and Research Analyst. I can find things on Google you would be amazed! I wrote a local Column for awhile as well The Gen Tree Column and gave Tip and Tricks and even did Genealogy Classes and Talks. I was the youngest Genealogist on the the Genealogy Circuit only being 27 years of age at the time.

I left California when I was 19 and moved back to Iowa. then the true hardships began.

The hardships (The skeltons the family doesn’t want to hear about)

When I was 8 years old, I was molested by a family member, when I was 10 years old, my father passed away, when I was 14 someone tried to take advantage of me again, When I was 18 I was dated raped by someone I trusted, when I was 19 I got pregnant and seriously, I had NO clue how it happened, When I was 20 we got married because of the baby, after we were married his true colors came out, I tried to leave and join the military, this was in 91 when all the Saudi things were going on, I freaked out and felt like I was pregnant, but the Sergeant wouldn’t  test me, when I got home we found out I was exactly one month pregnant, the time I was in basic training, they sent me home on a psychological discharge meaning I could never get called up in the military again, had second baby, since my first pregnancy and labor was so horrific (life flights, blue face, heart rate down for baby,etc) they said since I was a model and so small my body was not ready to have kids and had me sign a paper that said if there were complications i the labor that I might come out with my tubes tied, the anesthesia didn’t take and the doctor had to shoot locals in my stomach so of course when I came out I asked  and find out that yep, tubes tied, all this for me and my first husband to fight constantly only to end with him strangling me and me walking away to save my life having to leave my kids, thus after him and his family committing me to a mental ward saying I was psycho and taking custody of my kids, when I got out of there I just knew I had to leave and went back to California to get my life together, thus fighting a ten year battle for custody of my kids only for them to be of teen years to back out saying they would stay where they were, only to have 6 months later my son get in trouble with the law and that is why I came back here to Iowa in 2006.

I know that was long winded and sounded like a lot. But sadly…that is only a SMALL portion of my life story.

Why did I want to tell you all that? Because I want to share with you that doctors asked me how I was still sane after that kind of life. My answer. I choose to be. Life is what you make it. I used to be fragile. Now I teach other women how to go from Fragile to Fabulous. I am currently working on an update to my e-course Be Fabulous “ How I went from Fragile to Fabulous”.

I want to inspire others and share my story and help others see , you CAN be happy. You CAN have a good life. You CAN be Fabulous. The choice is yours.

What led you to your current career

I always knew I loved Fashion and Designing since the movie Pretty in Pink when she tore those dresses apart, drew a small design and then made something else for herself. I used to do that with my room and clothes when I was in high school so I knew way back then I loved the element of design.

I like many people followed what others told me would be a good career. I worked in food service in high school, hostessing then waitressing. Going in circles in my life, or so I felt.

Then eventually became a manager at a restaurant. One day I was managing and the cash drawer was off and I got in trouble for it because I was manager, the restaurant had a lot of issues that night, and we had tons of calls of complaints.

I went home that night and thought “Why am I doing this? I am miserable. I hate this. I am not happy. I am doing this for my kids yet I feel like I am going nowhere”

So the next day, I gave my notice, they let me go early and I packed my bags and headed back to California.

What are your passions/ hobbies/ dreams/ special talents?

I love to dance, sing and model. I went to a school called The Colony in Calif where they taught you all these things. When I turned 18 I looked like I was 15 and my modeling agency asked me if I would model with some other girls for Teen and Seventeen magazine. I did a few car shows after that and a couple of Mall Runway events where  got free product. But that was it.

I did other things for awhile and when I moved back to Iowa at 21 I connected with another agency here in Iowa called Avant and was a Stivers Lincoln Mercury girl once, did an infomercial and a couple of low kewl photo shoots where I was an extra.

In what ways do your personal interests align with your career?

I love fashion. but I like creating my own style. I like to be different and creating couture fashionable aprons that look like dresses does that. When people say, this would make a cute dress, I beam with pride because to me that is the highest compliment anyone could give me.

What does your typical work day look like?

My typical work day is different every day but there are a very general guides I like to try to follow to help me be successful.

Mondays are Marketing Mondays. Reaching out to others, phone calls, emails, updating blogs online, updating websites and such. Generally do things to help market, advertise and brand myself and my company.

Tuesdays are Trixie Tuesdays. If I haven’t written my blog for this day then I get up early and do that. I have two blogs I put on on this day and I alternate between them. on my TrishaTrixie.com site where I sell and discuss my aprons I might have a how to Be Fabulous on this day or talk about something retro, vintage or old school.

My other blog Trixie Tabloids, Lessons Learned from a Fabulous Fashionista I discuss lessons I have learned along the way. I have had many people ask me to share my knowledge with them and instead of trying to find the masses I let the masses come to me to hear my lessons if they do desire.

These blogs and others I may write I repost onto other sites once I have published them so this also takes up time in my day. I copy the link and repost it to Google, Stumbleupon,Independent Fashion Bloggers. The posts automatically post to Facebook, Twitter and LinkedIn so it gets out to those groups without me doing extra work.

Wednesdays are generally mine to do what I want with. Sometimes I run errands, sometimes like this week I was sewing like a maniac and gluing things and unleashing my creative side. From time to time I post a What Not Wednesday but that is up to me. 

Thursdays I generally go to network events. There are a few in Ankeny and other places that I attend and this helps me get out of the house and connect with others. Across the world everyone know Thursdays are Throwback Thursdays so I like to post a little picture of something Vintage or Retro. I means, this is Prime Time for a Retro girl!

Fridays are actually pointless, I mean seriously  who wants to work on Fridays. So I allow myself to be me. Whatever happens happens. That could be a hookie day or a work day or go run around day. So I have Fabulous Fridays! I try to have an uplifting Audio to send a little positive energy going out to my followers. There is a site called Audioboom. You can record audio and add an image. I like to do that and then post on Social Media. I also post in my Be Fabulous Private Group.

And then my weekend are mine and my hunnys. We currently are fixing up the house and do inside or outside work and on Sundays we have Switch off Sundays so we either play hobby board games or go for walks exploring different trails of DSM. We are getting married in 2015 (War and Swing Era theme at the WindPoint Lighthouse in Racine Wisconsin) so we are quite busy, but still make time for each other these days and our date night Wednesdays.

(Adjustment to this since  wrote it. I now have a fabulous assistant who is my Social Media Manger and handles a great percentage of this for me. I still write a great deal of the time, however she writes on Facebook and on the blog as well. I wanted to give a shout out and make sure you know there are no TWO HEADS writing on http://www.trishatrixie.com and Facebook and I am no longer a one woman show. )

What do you like most about your career? What do you like least about your career?

I love that it is mine. My own. My business. I get to make the decisions. Good or bad. I am not making some company money earning the “almighty dollar” for them and getting nothing in return.

What I like least is the struggle at times. Being an entrepreneur is hard. Many people think I sit around in my jammies all day. I do not. I still have a house to take care of, create things and work hard to make my businesses successful. I get up at 630 every morning and make breakfast and start my day with my sweeties then send him on his way. Then I get cracking. He comes off and gets to leave work at work. I may still be sewing or creating and take a break long enough to make dinner, do dishes and spend some times with him. Luckily my kids are grown and older and out of the house. Even luckier is that my fiance’ likes to play video games so we get our own times at night. He plays games, I generally go back to work. I have to tell myself to rest or if I work too hard my body tells me to stop and then I have to listen.

Why is that important? I have arthritis, I have lower lumbar problems i my L2,3,4 and l5 vertebrae, I get severe migraines. I am in pain of some form or the other all the time. BUT, I do not let that stop me. I have made the decision that I can’t allow that to rule my life. My family all groaned and moaned my whole life about some ailment or the other and I couldn’t stand how that stopped them from living the life they wanted. I decided I would keep doing what I love until I couldn’t’ do it anymore and if that ever really happens then I promised to do things like this and talk to others and reach out to help inspire and encourage others to follow their dreams too.

Do you have internship opportunities at your agency? What is an internship?

I am always looking for interns. But because I am a small LLC, Sole Proprietorship business I rarely can pay anyone. I generally hire interns from schools and colleges who are looking for hours for their work study or coursework or someone who is wanting the experience. That is their pay. When I have it, I pay them or give them things they want from my line, aprons, fascinators, etc. From time to time I have paid interns/assistants but actually I connected better with those who are trying to earn it through hours because they work harder. However, I have found this is not always the case. It is amazing when you find that RARE individual or tribe that beleives in you, supports you and wants to see you succeed. I have this little tribe of people called The Trixe Tribe. They are a small handle of people, less than a handful who are always cheering me on, helping me here and there, and rarely ask for anything. I send them a fascinator, an apron, one I feed Ice cream sandwiches (that’s literally all the boy wants) , and one I buy her daughter (who is my mini intern, upcoming entrepreneur little coloring princess sticker books and the mom I pay her when I can and buy her food when she helps me at my booths for tradeshows and pay on the value of when I make money she makes money and she is just the best thing that has happened to me. So, you  know, there are always opportunities everywhere. If there is a company you are interested in, evern if they aren’t saying there is, ask them. Tell them why you want to work with them. You would be surprised. They might need your help and don’t know it. They might think you would NOt be an asset but come to find out, you would be the biggest asset, they never you could be 🙂

What advice would you give others who are interested in your field?

I always tell others to follow their dreams. Even to an extreme point. Something I have learned is that working part time for someone else and trying to live a dream generally does not work. I am not going to say it has never worked because I am sure there are those people out there who it HAS worked for. But Shark Tank and other Investors I have spoke with Start Up City DSM and Business Innovation Zone always tells me and in seminars they have given that you have to work your dream 24/7 to really make it work. Consider that if you are part time that there is someone like me working 24/7 and that is some heavy competition.

Be prepared to work hard. Be prepared to also only do 20% of your dream and the rest marketing, advertising and working hard to be successful. Too many times people think “I’m going to be a Fashion Designer and then I will get to draw, design and make fashions all day.” Not true. I have to schedule time to design, I have to schedule time to draw for fun, and as I said earlier I even schedule time to sew.

Do I love it. Sure. Would I work for anyone else? HELL NO.

Ok, wait, I take that back. Because I WOULD work for someone else if it was in the Fashion Industry doing what I love. If it was the PERFECT JOB, in a PERFECT Career, meaning it was with a company, I have loved and admire and “I” wanted to work there, then HELL YES, I would. (didn’t want to stab myself int eh foot later dont the road) lol

I would rather struggle everyday doing what I love then being miserable doing what I  hate for someone else. (unless what I said)

What advice would you give young people who aren’t sure if they should attend college?

Honestly, I am one of those that doesn’t agree with the College mentality. Earning a degree is just a status quo. Society says we should do it so we do. “College” per say I feel is pointless unless you are going after those fields that require it.

However, “LEARNING, TRAINING, etc” I feel is required. I learned so much from others, small courses, e-books, e-courses, Craftsy, Etsy, Small group sessions, Coaching from a business coach, life learned in from a Life Coach and networking and going to seminars, meetings and conferences. But then again, I am a gleaner. I glean. I can take from others and learn it fast, make it my own and run with it. Not everyone is like that.

How do you advocate for female leaders within the community?

This honestly is a hard one to answer. I think everything here in Des Moines is about cliques. If you are in the right clique you go far. I am sorry if that sounds cynical but sadly I feel it is true. In California and other big sites however I feel the population is so much higher that the society in those areas does not have the time to be focused on the petty things because they are all working on greater things.

I used to have a non profit here in Des Moines Warriors for the Homeless. I tried hard to make a difference. I failed. But I failed successfully. I DID make a difference. But I had to let that part of my life go. I felt a calling to higher and better things and I knew I could still make a difference in another way. And now I have.

By doing what I love I have SHOWN how to be successful, I have shown how to be a positive influence, I have shown how to be passionate, I have allowed my actions to speak louder than my words. I feel THIS message is more important than having a non profit. Now, my business can still help the homeless and others in the community. Now I just do it at the holiday time under my OWN company.

Hopefully sharing my life with you and sharing my life story has inspired and encouraged you.

If you ever want to share your story with me I would be happy to listen.

If you want to join my Be Fabulous workshop email me and I will add you to the list.

“When given the option of being fabulous, why would you choose anything else?”

Until next time,

Xoxo Trisha Trixie

How Big is Your Brave?

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My Inspiration for this message….Miss Sara B…

How BIG is YOUR Brave?

As I was listening to this song today that line in the song jumped out at me.

“Show me how big your brave is”

Have you ever given that thought or merit when she says that? Has anyone ever asked you that question? HAve you ever pondered how “BIG” your brave is?

You can be amazing
You can be anything you want to be. You can be a lawyer, a teacher, a video game designer, a fashion designer, a contractor, a healer, you could even be a superhero if you wanted to…YOU could be amazing. It is up to you.
You can turn a phrase into a weapon or a drug
Your words are powerful actions. Those words turn into phrases and they can be amazing mantras and sayings and quotes that people cherish and DESIRE to hear and long to hear from like a rug or they can sting and burn and hurt and cause pain so deep, the emotional scar leaves a a permanent mark.
You can be the outcast
You can sit in the corner and whine about why you have no friends, why no one loves you, why you are always in the “friend zone” or…
Or be the backlash of somebody’s lack of love
You could be the one who is unloved, uncared for, mistreated, abused, pained, miserable…or.
Or you can start speaking up

Nothing’s gonna hurt you the way that words do
When they settle ‘neath your skin

Kept on the inside and no sunlight
Sometimes a shadow wins
Be cautious of those words and let your words be your superpower for good not evil. Let the words that fall from your lips be of joy and harmony not pain and anguish not grime and complain or bitterness and sarcasm but love and encouragement.
But I wonder what would happen if you

Say what you wanna say
And let the words fall out
Honestly I wanna see you be brave
With what you want to say
And let the words fall out
Honestly I wanna see you be brave

Speak up, stand out, be strong, stand for something, do something, stand up for yourself, for others, for things you believe in. 

I just wanna see you
I wanna see you be brave

Everybody’s been there,

Yes we have…
Everybody’s been stared down by the enemy
Some more than others and sadly some more haters than others and even worse, frenemies- those you THINK are your friends only to find out they are hating behind your back and sabotaging you
Fallen for the fear
And done some disappearing,
Bow down to the mighty
Don’t run, just stop holding your tongue

Maybe there’s a way out of the cage where you live

Maybe one of these days you can let the light in
Show me how big your brave is

Say what you wanna say
And let the words fall out
Honestly I wanna see you be brave
With what you want to say
And let the words fall out
Honestly I wanna see you be brave

And since your history of silence
Won’t do you any good,
Did you think it would?
Let your words be anything but empty
Why don’t you tell them the truth?….

Stop filling your brain with the lies you tell yourself. Stop beleiving in those negative thoughts that someone else dumped their negative baggage on you and then forgot to take it with them. Don’t EVER let someone else’s impression of you, thought of you, opinion of you be the deciding factor in  who YOU think and KNOW you are! YOU are FABULOUS! Own it! Be Fabulous!
Say what you wanna say
And let the words fall out
Honestly I wanna see you be brave
With what you want to say
And let the words fall out
Honestly I wanna see you be brave

I just wanna see you be brave…

How BIG is YOUR Brave?
XOXO Trisha Trixie
(Would love to hear your thoughts. Please comment below)
Happy Fabulous Friday. Be Brave!