When Given the Option: Choose Fabulous

When given the option Fabulous

Today is Fabulous Friday and I just wanna say….

My life is not perfect.

I fight with with my man. Not often, but it does happen.

I fight with my kids. In fact my 21 yr old hates me …with a passion.

My body is a mess. Arthritis, neck and back degeneration.Migraines. you name it.

I have suffered heartache like no other.

My business suffered a huge loss last year. Sometimes I really just wanna throw in the towel. Yet I keep trying new things and trying to make it work, some way, some how.

I am planning a wedding and getting married on a shoestring budget and trying to please two families one here in Des Moines, one there in Wisconsin.

I have a saboteur stealing signs off my car, outta my yard, and making nasty comments on my business  blog site to where I have to approve my comments. #HatersGonnaHate

The list could go on as I am sure your list of negatives in your life could be like this as well if not worse….


Why do I post happy pictures of myself on Social Media? Why do I post uplifting messages? Why do I post messages thanking others often? Why do I send out kisses and hugs, Xxx’s and OOoo’s? Why? Why do I do these positive things?

Because my life from the time I was born or at least as far as I can remember has been filled with negativity and bad things have happened to me. I used to feel like I was a victim. Now I realize I am an Overcomer.That song by Mandisa Overcomer completely defines me. I went from Fragile to Fabulous. It is my Mantra. I even have an E-Course about it launching next year (but that’s another story for another time)

Somewhere along the way I made a choice. Just as YOU could also make that choice.

#BeNegative or #BePositive?

#BeMiserable or #BeFabulous?

Life is filled with so much hate, so much negativity so much anguish, so much heartache. We live it with every day. We see it on the news, we see it in our newsfeed, we see it on Social Media, we hear it on the radio and even in the work gossip. We can’t escape it, it seems.

We wake up every morning and have a choice. A choice to be happy or sad. A choice to let the pain take us over or conquer the pain. We have a choice to go to work begrudgingly or make the most of it. We have a choice to allow the hater get the best of us or rise above it and be the better person. We have a choice to let the stress of wedding planning be a chore or to enjoy the fun of it. We have a choice to worry about the child who hates us or love the child who loves us and calls us to see if we are ok, even if it only is every now and then. We have a choice to appreciate the friends who are there for us when we need them. We have a choice to thank the team who supports us when we need them. We have a choice to be grateful to the believers who believe in us, even when we are unsure if we believe in ourselves. We have a choice to love the man who loves us for us, the whole of us, when we feel ugly, when we feel less than pretty, when we feel less than ourselves, when we feel great, when we feel sad, when we feel mad and yes even when we are yelling at each other, we have a choice to love that man for loving us at our best and at our worst. We have that choice. We also have a choice, to let the one who broke our heart…go. We have a choice to remember that he is not the man who loves us, now. We have that choice too.

We are a result of the choices we have and will make.

The best part of the Indiana Jones Last Crusade movie I like is that part when the protector says to him “You must Choose, but Choose Wisely”

and when you know you have done right and you have made the right decision you know it in your heart and you feel affirmed. You feel that satisfaction!

You have chosen wisely!

Remember, the CHOICE, is up to you.

Be Fabulous!

Happy FAbulous Friday everyone!

Until Next Time,

xoxo Trisha Trixie Muah!


How Big is Your Brave?



My Inspiration for this message….Miss Sara B…

How BIG is YOUR Brave?

As I was listening to this song today that line in the song jumped out at me.

“Show me how big your brave is”

Have you ever given that thought or merit when she says that? Has anyone ever asked you that question? HAve you ever pondered how “BIG” your brave is?

You can be amazing
You can be anything you want to be. You can be a lawyer, a teacher, a video game designer, a fashion designer, a contractor, a healer, you could even be a superhero if you wanted to…YOU could be amazing. It is up to you.
You can turn a phrase into a weapon or a drug
Your words are powerful actions. Those words turn into phrases and they can be amazing mantras and sayings and quotes that people cherish and DESIRE to hear and long to hear from like a rug or they can sting and burn and hurt and cause pain so deep, the emotional scar leaves a a permanent mark.
You can be the outcast
You can sit in the corner and whine about why you have no friends, why no one loves you, why you are always in the “friend zone” or…
Or be the backlash of somebody’s lack of love
You could be the one who is unloved, uncared for, mistreated, abused, pained, miserable…or.
Or you can start speaking up

Nothing’s gonna hurt you the way that words do
When they settle ‘neath your skin

Kept on the inside and no sunlight
Sometimes a shadow wins
Be cautious of those words and let your words be your superpower for good not evil. Let the words that fall from your lips be of joy and harmony not pain and anguish not grime and complain or bitterness and sarcasm but love and encouragement.
But I wonder what would happen if you

Say what you wanna say
And let the words fall out
Honestly I wanna see you be brave
With what you want to say
And let the words fall out
Honestly I wanna see you be brave

Speak up, stand out, be strong, stand for something, do something, stand up for yourself, for others, for things you believe in. 

I just wanna see you
I wanna see you be brave

Everybody’s been there,

Yes we have…
Everybody’s been stared down by the enemy
Some more than others and sadly some more haters than others and even worse, frenemies- those you THINK are your friends only to find out they are hating behind your back and sabotaging you
Fallen for the fear
And done some disappearing,
Bow down to the mighty
Don’t run, just stop holding your tongue

Maybe there’s a way out of the cage where you live

Maybe one of these days you can let the light in
Show me how big your brave is

Say what you wanna say
And let the words fall out
Honestly I wanna see you be brave
With what you want to say
And let the words fall out
Honestly I wanna see you be brave

And since your history of silence
Won’t do you any good,
Did you think it would?
Let your words be anything but empty
Why don’t you tell them the truth?….

Stop filling your brain with the lies you tell yourself. Stop beleiving in those negative thoughts that someone else dumped their negative baggage on you and then forgot to take it with them. Don’t EVER let someone else’s impression of you, thought of you, opinion of you be the deciding factor in  who YOU think and KNOW you are! YOU are FABULOUS! Own it! Be Fabulous!
Say what you wanna say
And let the words fall out
Honestly I wanna see you be brave
With what you want to say
And let the words fall out
Honestly I wanna see you be brave

I just wanna see you be brave…

How BIG is YOUR Brave?
XOXO Trisha Trixie
(Would love to hear your thoughts. Please comment below)
Happy Fabulous Friday. Be Brave!