What Helped me get from Fragile to **FABULOUS**

Many people who know me, know that I have undergone some dramatic, hard and unbelievable trials and adversity in my life. I was very fragile when younger and even in my twenties up to my thirties…I believed I was a victim and though I was still smiling, underneath I had NOT released those insecurities and thoughts that were weighing me down.

 

After a VERY hard breakup that nearly tore me apart, I fell…Rock bottom I went. I had hit rock bottom before and if you think you CAN”T hit it more than once, well you are WRONG. Sadly, you can. After losing my children, being homeless, and many other things I couldn’t deal with it all. But with a pal who allowed me to run away to Oklahoma for awhile and get my shit together, I made it back again. So when it happened again, I needed to do the same and another dear friend allowed me to come to Colorado and escape for awhile.

 

After having the time to focus on me, get some healing and go through some rejuvenation of self, I was able to come back to reality. But friends love and care and encouragement was not enough for me. I am a Self Help Book and Course lover and found through this time in my life these things that helped me through.

 

One may not work for you, two many may be overwhelming. None of them may work for you. I am not saying they will. I am merely saying, these are the courses I took and the things “I” did that helped me. I want to share them, share my love and share my life with others so that perchance they may overcome and be the FABULOUS person they have inside them and let the world see that person.

Here is the link to my page which shares the links to all the places and the fabulous people that were a part of my journey that led me to here.

http://adgb.blogspot.com/2012/07/inspiration-boards-and-other-visual.html

Out of this came… Brave Girls Club. I learned to overcome the idea of Victim and it helped me to build my character as a human being. I wept, I learned, I grew.

This transitioned into learning more about Full Moon Boards from Jaime Ridler at Ridler Studios. The Jen Allen at Right Brain Business Plan had us to visual mappings as entrepreneurs to get us in the right mind frame.As the year progresses I learned more and more about canvases, books, boards, etc for Visual Inspiration. Through the teaching I found Carolyn Rubenstein’s A Beautiful Ripple Effect and started gathering quotes and pasting them with mod podge like a mad woman for more inspiration. I joined Goddess Leonie’s circles and made Visual Permission Slips to see every day. I followed Danielle La Porte’s blog and print and post her words at work, in my car and at home for encouragement. I started following Brene Brown’s Ordinary Courage and took her words and put them in my SOAR journal as we as the wonderful writing and learning I gathered from my SOAR class itself.

Then the universe led me to Stephanie St. Claire and Blissbombed. After  hard break up and an uncertainty I couldn’t bear, I followed her blog, read her old blog and gladly signed up for the Daily Note Card to hear her words. I took her Bad Ass Broad Workshop and it was the best thing for me to kick me ass into gear and get me back on track with my life. And yes, I even made a Bad Ass Board to keep her words in my head at all times as well as a Hell No and Hell Yes Board from her blog of the same. 

http://theartoftrishatrixie.blogspot.com/2012/02/ced-challenge-mixed-media.html

as well as an artist doing Challenge through Willowing

http://theartoftrishatrixie.blogspot.com/2012/09/featured-willowing-for-september.html

and The Summer of Color

https://www.facebook.com/groups/116928415059733/

I took the colors from SOC and applied them to the Monthly Challenge I was doing on Willowing.

BY going through these courses, reading these words, have them emailed to me daily or weekly, pouring myself into the courses and challenges really worked for me. Even if you are NOT an artist, doing small things to unleash your creative side would surprise you how healing it is.

I am SO very thankful to all these people who spend their time doing things for good to help others.

My life would not be the same with out it…

and I would not be the person I am today!

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Being a Fashionista

Some of you might be wondering first and foremost what being a fashionista really means. What gives me the right to speak on these things and share these insights with you.

Fashionista Terms and Meanings

Fashion is the English word for style. and “ista” derived from the latin word “manista” which means the exalted one.

A person devoted to fashion clothing, particularly unique or high fashion.
A person NOT to be called a fashionista would be someone who obsessively follows trends. REAL  fashionistas do not believe in trends. (Which btw I don’t believe in trends)
A term used to define a woman with a penchant for shopping and a natural flair for combining both current and vintage fashionable trends.

In today’s Urban society, “fashionista” is not by any means a negative term.
Thanks to television shows like “Sex and the City” rather more specifically, thanks to actresses such as Sarah Jessica Parker, the image of a “fashionista” has been modernized into a much more positive, powerful and successful feminine role.

Forget the shallow, bitchy, materialistic image so many people are quick to describe.
The truth is, it’s the new millenium and the hottest trend right now, is that it’s okay to be a woman again. The “fashionista” doesn’t look at her femininity as a gender flaw.
Where some may be quick to label her a bitch, others actually take the time to get to know her eccentricities.
“Fashionista’s” simply look at Fashion as an Art, their own bodies as the canvas, and the sense of style they develope along the way is simply the masterpiece.
True fashion (“true fashion” as in the clothes and not the stereotypically thin supermodels that wear them) is simply an expression of identity and the people who feel the need to argue that are usually the same people who rarely see the positive in anything.
“Fashionista’s” are extremely realistic when it comes to the world of fashion, they’re also very knowledgeable about the Fashion Arts.
Info derived and cut from http://www.urbandictionary.com
Now that I have given you all the terms and descriptions and definitions from the Urban World let me tell you what Being a Fashionista means to me.
Since I can remember I have had to make my own style. My father passed when I was young and after moving to a new school, a new town and making new friends I had a chance to create a new me. We didn’t have a lot of money and led a very interesting life (Read Days of Corn Tortillas to find out more) so I had to make due with thrift and handed down clothes from cousins, aunts, sisters and friends of my mother.
I took this opportunity to think outside the box and make my own unique clothing style and fashion even then. From that point, my unique style and fashion sense just keep changing and evolving.
I took Design classes at Brooks College and learned more and more the older I got about Fashion, putting pieces together and learning the trade. But then of course, I know I have my own uniqueness to everything I do.
Being a Trixie Fashionista means taking all I have learned and pairing it with all I know then adding a twist of my own Trixie flair.  Being a Fashionista means seeing things in fashion no one else sees. It means taking what is out there in fashion and making it better.
Being a Fashionista to me means recognizing the fabulous in fashion and then making it my own in my own design, my own design and my own wardrobe through a Vintage flair and Couture quality.