Forward Facing Leader or Sugar Coated Life?

Has anyone ever told you they are looking for a “Forward Facing Leader”?

Were you left wondering,

What the heck is that?

Recently I was told I did not have the image of a forward facing leader.

In true Trixie nature, I went out on a hunt to gather more info.

Here is some of what I found:

The Hunt

What single quality differentiates high-potential leaders from ordinary contributors in an organization?

It’s their ability to be forward-looking and focus on the future. To become a better leader or distinguish yourself as someone primed for promotion, you’ll want to develop your capacity to envision the future.

WorkCoach Cafe

“…if they meet with clients or anyone outside the company on a regular basis or are responsible for being the face of the company, as in reception work, then they are in a forward facing or client facing job.”

After reading both of this, I figured out what she meant. She was trying to tell me, I was not representing myself in the best light as the face of the company…in her opinion.

In Her Opinion

are the Key Words here.

While this group organization or perhaps herself, does not feel that I was presenting my best face forward, I tend to disagree not because she is directing it towards me, but because the face of my brand is

REALITY| AUTHENTICITY| HONESTY

I am who I am online, in real life, and in everything I do.

What she felt was not correct was how I presented myself online. However, I was being myself.

The funnier thing is in her email she states that she loves me as a human and thinks I’m fabulous, however, I need to be “different” online. Um….hi did you hear what you just said?

So, you want me to be fake online to “look better” than who I really am?

No thank you.

One thing I pride myself in being REAL to a fault.

I understand that means not everyone will like me in real life or online.

True, real, authenticity to me is being vulnerable enough to really be who you really are. ALWAYS. Not just when it suits you.

I spoke my mind and I ask questions.

I have Aspergers and many times do not understand things. This type of questioning makes other nervous. This type of real speaking up about how I feel about something isn’t always the norm and thus, I get criticized for saying and doing things others would not say. They generally would not say them, because society has told us not to. I laugh in the face of society. They deem people like me, with Aspergers, aka HFA (High Functioning Autism) as

NOT NORMAL

What is normal? Whose to say the way you view forward facing is correct and the way I view it is wrong? Neither is right. Neither is wrong. It is merely an interpretation.

I am Forward Facing.

I know I am my brand.

I know I am the face of my brand and I do all I can to be the best brand image of myself inside and out ALWAYS, by the way.

I do that by being real.

By being who I really am and not sugar coating life.

How do you become future-oriented and still handle day-to-day challenges? (The Hunt)

I will admit, the last couple of year battling Colon Cancer, Fighting it, OVercoming it and trying to get healthy again had their toll on me. It is hard to look forward when you don’t know what forward is and how many years that means. But even still I did my best.

I made 1 year, 3 year and 10-year goals and plans using the Dragontree Planner, not knowing if I would live to accomplish them. I put the pen to paper and wrote it all out. I made vision boards looking and hoping towards the future.

While the ability to focus on the future separates leaders from the rank-and-file, many of us fail to understand and appreciate its importance. We devote almost no time to developing this vital quality, which then becomes a huge barrier to future success. In today’s difficult times, people need to be reminded of why they are doing what they do — and why it matters. 

Both Articles from The Hunt and Work Coach Cafe has some really good material for those in a workforce who are looking to develop this mentality better. I want to focus on people like me who are the face of the company or trying to be.

Mainly #2 from Entrepreneur.com

2. Publish content — as yourself.

Next, start publishing content regularly, under your own name — not your brand’s.  Reveal bits of your personality throughout your writing process, so people get to know you through your material.

It does not say be fake online and a different person in real life. It says Be Yourself.

Again, not everyone is going to agree and not everyone will like the style or method or way you speak, talk, or post. It also does not say sugar coat who you are or who your brand is. Being you is the best you that you can be. I am the best me I can be and sadly, if that means a group won’t like my posts or like me, then so be it. As one of the articles stated…

Why would you want to be around people that uptight anyway?

I fully concur.

Lastly,

I want to leave with you one little tidbit from Chron

Develop a Thick Skin

When you put yourself out there, you should expect to receive negative comments and reactions to everything from your hairstyle to your message. As the face of the company, you must maintain a professional image at all times and learn how to respond appropriately to criticism. A sense of humor helps in many situations, especially when the rebukes take place in a public forum. Maintain your composure and develop a routine for handling negative remarks. Take a deep breath, count to 10 or think about the money you’re earning from the publicity before responding in print, online or in person to the digs and jabs you can expect as the face of your company.

I said “Thank you” to the leader who said this to me. I also removed myself from her group and took a step back to evaluate what she said. This happened about a week or so ago and I didn’t want to react in haste or hurt.

My way of moving on was to write this blog. I did not name names, nor will I. She knows who she is and maybe one day will read this, maybe not. Not my problem or concern.

I wrote this blog to alert others of this mentality and mostly to be aware of it.

You may take to it differently than I did and that is totally fine. You are allowed. I encourage you to because I know then that you are thinking for yourself.

We have enough sheep in this world, we don’t’ need more.

We also have way too much sugar in America and maybe one huge lesson I learned from France was a little less sugar and a little more reality could do us some good here in America.

~Trisha Trixie

Links in this article and excerpts from:

http://www.huntsearch.com/viewdetails.asp?id=1101

http://workcoachcafe.com/career-dictionary-definitions/what-is-forward-facing-or-client-facing-work/

https://smallbusiness.chron.com/face-company-45488.html

http://dreambook.vision/?aff=180

https://www.entrepreneur.com/article/254048

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Personal Trauma

Have you ever experienced personal trauma in your life?
 
Would you share it with others?
 
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I asked these brave volunteers to share their story of trauma and overcoming to maybe give you a spark of hope that you too can overcome the adversities and trials of your life!
 

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There’s a kind of Hunger Games occurring among organizations and brands to seize people’s attention and loyalty. Here’s what it takes to win power in today’s hyperconnected age, according to activists Jeremy Heimans and Henry Timms. Today, we have the capacity to make movies, friends or money; to spread hope or spread our ideas; to…

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Time to Be Fabulous

When the world is far from fabulous.
When you think you can’t give anymore
When you look at life and see nothingness
When your heart is broken beyond repair
When the rug of life is pulled out from underneath you
When you don’t know who you can trust
When you just want to hide
When you are frustrated beyond belief
When you feel less than
When you think you can’t go anymore, do anymore, be anymore…

Be Fabulous… ♥

Show them they didn’t break you
Show them you can do it without them
Show them by giving it all you got
Show them by getting back up
Show them by dusting yourself off and walking again
Show them by loving everyone
Show them by showing up
Show them you can shine

It’s Time to Fall Into Fabulous…

Want to know how?Stay tuned…

My Official Top 25 Colorado Summer Bucket List

My Official Top 25 Colorado Summer Bucket List

I saw on PureWow “The Official Hamptons Summer Bucket List” and I thought, as a newbie to Denver (barely one year), since there is a lot I have yet to do, what sage words of advice and places and things to do wold Google send me. I have compiled a list of websites for you to peruse and put on my top 20 for what maybe I want to do this summer! If you have any comments or suggestions, please comment below!

My Official Top 25 Colorado Summer Bucket List

  1. Perfect your dance cardio moves at Pure Barre, Greenwood Village
  2. Check out a Farmer’s Market. You’ll support the local community and keep your beach bod in check.
  3. Nab treasures from some great vintage and thrift stores
  4. Take a day trip to Pike’s Peak
  5. Go Ziplining at Castle Rock/ Castle Pines
  6. Try a cooking class at the Kitchen Table
  7. Sip drinks by the pool or my patio at the 360 Luxury Degree’s Apt.
  8. Catch a concert at Fiddler’s Green Ampitheater
  9. Stock up on some scents, essential oils, Chinese herbs and other mediatative books, cds, bumper stickers, and teas and roots from Sheepish Wellness and Healing
  10. This one is mandatory: Relax. Read a good book, draw, color, whatever, just sit downa and do nothing at some point.
  11. After breathing gross city air all year, you need to detox, stat. Get a Detox Kit from Dr. Sarah Ruderman (Isagenix) and start fresh!
  12. Try out a Cannabis Restaurant 
  13. Go wine tastingand indulge in an evening view from my favorite Wine Bar at Uncorked Kitchen
  14. Fact: Dinner tastes way better when you eat it outside. Try out one of the Denver Patio Places to Eat. Or Make a Picnic and take it outside to a park somewhere.
  15. Pack a sunshade, a cooler and a beach towel (maybe a beach chair) , then head to the closest lake (Cherry Creek or when in Wisconsin at Pickeral Lake ) Repeat as necessary until Labor Day.
  16. Summer = fireworks. Bring some fun or buy some along the way. Make sure it is lawful to shoot in the town where you choose. In the end, remember to have fun. Add many sparklers.
  17. Forgot to book a spa day at one of Denver’s Best Day Spa’s. Give yourself a day for you or you and a gal pal or you and your hunepants.
  18. Expand your art collection (or start one) by going to one of the art days on a Denver Summer Weekend. Find a piece that screams out at you. Buy it, hang it. Enjoy.
  19. Bet Brunch in town? Denver’s Best Brunch Spots
  20. Go to a Resort. Have Fun. I’ll be at The Waters Minocqua
  21. Save time going to and from the airport by using a feature we just found out about SkyRide. It will pick up up at the LightRail Stations and take you directly to the airport for only $9! That’s cheaper than parking and no worries about trying to remember which lot or stall you parked in when you get back from your tip!
  22. Oh, athleisure, we want to live in you all summer. Stock up on Athleta for the comfy clothes for summer flair, summer wear.
  23. Go for a Bike Ride for a leisurely day, relaxing and enjoying nature.
  24. Food trucks from are the rave here in Denver. got to try me something off a truck that people keep raving about. Have a suggestion? Comment below.
  25. Investigate getting my scuba diving license.

 

Links to check out:

http://www.5280.com/bucketlist

http://www.westword.com/news/100-things-to-do-in-colorado-before-you-kick-it-5123130

http://303magazine.com/2014/04/colorado-bucket-list-10-things-spring-summer

https://www.thrillist.com/entertainment/denver/the-denver-bucket-list-red-rocks-my-brother-s-bar-mayan-theater?vortexd=65

2015 Summer Bucket List

http://denver.citymomsblog.com

Summer Bucket List {Over 100 Things To See and Do!}

Trisha Trixie

TRISHATRIXIE IS A SOLOPRENEUR, EMPOWERMENT GURU, LIFE DESIGNER, PASSIVE “EXPERTISE” INCOME EXPERT, PINUP MODEL AND SPRINKLER OF FABULOUSNESS.

SHE IS THE FOUNDER OF TRISHATRIXIE DESIGNS, TRISHA TRIXIE AND COMPANY, THE GOOD OF SISTERHOOD, JUSTE ETRE: JUST BE, MS. COURAGE, AND THE PEP CLUB. 

SHE IS CURRENTLY IN THE PROCESS OF WRITING HER BOOK “FALLING INTO FABULOUS” A FHOENIX RISING: A STORY ABOUT OVERCOMING.

HER AND HER NEWLYWED SPOUSE BEN (OFTEN KNOWN AS HUNEPANTS) LIVE IN CENTENNIAL, COLORADO AS NEW RESIDENTS (TRANSPLANTED FROM IOWA, VIA CALIFORNIA, VIA EVERYWHERE ELSE) AND RESIDING WITH THEM IS THEIR 3 CATS, MISS IVY, MR. BOOTIES, AND MR. DUDE.

Pursuit of Excellence

There is this great little book called the Pursuit of Excellence and it helps you with goals and desires to become a better person. In finding this, I decided this year my quest is on The Pursuit of Excellence and these are my Challenges I am going to and have been taking on this year! I added them to my ASANA (Project Tracking Tool) and this way I can monitor my success and measure my statistics on how I am doing and have Asana as my own Accountability Coach!

This pamphlet encourages individuals to pursue excellence in their lives by setting goals and working diligently to achieve them. It includes several achievement challenges.

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POE: Spiritual Challenges:

  • Strengthen your spiritual testimony
  • Study Spiritual Work from Spiritual Leaders
  • Share Spiritual Quotes via Social Media to uplift and inspire others
  • Develop a personal file of teachings, articles, home, family & friend enrichment ideas, quotes, thoughts, anecdotes, and spiritual experiences
  • Keep a Personal Journal
  • Establish a habit of daily Meditation
  • Freely forgive others
  • Accept opportunities to speak or teach
  • Record memorable spiritual experiences or events in a journal

POE: Intellectual Challenges:

  • Pray to know what gifts have been given you, and use one of those gifts to bless others.
  • Study the words of leaders about strengthening families, marriages, and homes.Read a book that will increase your faith and strengthen you spiritually.
  • Learn about and develop a new skill or interest.
  • Improve your ability to communicate with others
  • Learn more about Aspergers and Autism
  • Improve skills for an occupation.
  • Improve your employment opportunities.
  • Complete a degree or certificate program
  • Learn another language
  • Learn to budget wisely and manage personal finances.
  • Develop a plan of preparedness for emergencies
  • Acquire greater proficiency in an occupational or homemaking skill (such as organizing, using a computer, sewing, mechanical work, cooking, or cleaning).

POE: Physical Challenges:

  • Develop healthy eating habits and patterns
  • Learn to cook healthy foods.
  • Develop a program of regular exercise.
  • Work toward healthy sleep patterns.
  • Improve emotional and mental health.
  • Improve your personal appearance or hygiene.
  • Create opportunities to be active with family and friends.

POE: Service Challenges:

  • Pray for inspiration about who needs your help each day, and act on your inspiration.
  • Welcome or befriend a new person
  • Volunteer for or lead a service project in your community.
  • Find ways to be a friend and serve someone who is elderly.
  • Write encouraging letters to others and send
  • Assist someone who needs help with their education.

POE: Character Challenges:

  • Overcome a bad habit or addiction
  • Improve your ability to manage time wisely.
  • Learn to be grateful, and express your appreciation.
  • Choose friends and companions who are earnestly seeking to maintain high ideals and standards.
  • Cultivate patience and tolerance for others.
  • Avoid comparing yourself to others, and learn to recognize when you are doing your best.
  • Beware of pride, and seek to be humble and teachable

If you would like to get your own Pursuit of Excellence Book Order here

For some examples click here

April Love 07 Dear Rest

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Dear Rest,

At times you elude me. Most of the time you elude me in fact.

There is no rest for the weary…

But Rest is more than Sleep.

Rest is being content

Rest is allowing yourself to have a break, to take a load off.

Rest is putting your mind, body and soul at ease through meditation.

Rest is a music note, asking to take a break.

Rest is a time for refreshment.

Rest is to stop movement.

Rest is to cease working.

Rest allows you time to recover your strength.

Rest means ceasing to engage in strenuous or stressful activity.

Rest is also an object that is used to support something.

Rest is but a small word, yet means so many amazing things.

 

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rest/
verb
verb: rest; 3rd person present: rests; past tense: rested; past participle: rested; gerund or present participle: resting
  1. 1.
    cease work or movement in order to relax, refresh oneself, or recover strength.
    “he needed to rest after the feverish activity”
    synonyms: relax, take a rest, ease up/off, let up, slow down, have/take a break,unbend, unwind, recharge one’s batteries, be at leisure, take it easy,put one’s feet up; More

    • allow to be inactive in order to regain strength, health, or energy.
      “her friend read to her while she rested her eyes”
    • leave (a player) out of a team temporarily.
      “both men were rested for the final game”
    • (of a dead person or body) lie buried.
      “the king’s body rested in his tomb”
    • (of a problem or subject) be left without further investigation, discussion, or treatment.
      “the council has urged the planning committee not to allow the matter to rest”
    • allow (land) to lie fallow.
      “the field should be grazed or rested”
    • LAWNORTH AMERICAN
      conclude the case for the prosecution or the defense in a law case.
      “the prosecution rests”
  2. 2.
    be placed or supported so as to stay in a specified position.
    “her elbow was resting on the arm of the sofa”
    synonyms: lie, be laid, repose, be placed, be positioned, be supported by

    “his hands rested on the rail”
    • place (something) so that it is supported in a specified position.
      “he rested a hand on her shoulder”
      synonyms: support, prop (up), lean, lay, set, stand, position, place, put

      “she rested her basket on the ground”
    • (of a look) alight or be steadily directed on.
      “his eyes rested briefly on the boy”
    • be based on or grounded in; depend on.
      “the country’s security rested on its alliances”
      synonyms: be based on, depend on, be dependent on, rely on, hinge on, turn on, be contingent on, revolve around, center on

      “the film script rests on an improbable premise”
    • place hope, trust, or confidence on or in.
      “she rested her hopes in her attorney”
    • belong or be located at a specified place or with a specified person.
      “ultimate control rested with the founders”
noun
noun: rest; plural noun: rests; suffix: -rest; suffix: -rests
  1. 1.
    an instance or period of relaxing or ceasing to engage in strenuous or stressful activity.
    “you look as though you need a rest”
    • a motionless state.
      “the car accelerates rapidly from rest”
      synonyms: a standstill, a halt, a stop

      “passengers queried why the train had come to rest several miles before the next station”
    • MUSIC
      an interval of silence of a specified duration.
    • MUSIC
      the sign denoting a rest.
    • a pause in speech or verse.
  2. 2.
    an object that is used to support something.
    “a chin-rest”
    synonyms: stand, base, holder, support, rack, frame, shelf

    “she took the poker from its rest”
    • a support or hook for a telephone receiver when not in use.
    • a support for a cue in billiards or pool.
Origin
Old English ræst, rest (noun), ræstan, restan (verb), of Germanic origin, from a root meaning ‘league’ or ‘mile’ (referring to a distance after which one rests).
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rest/
noun
noun: rest
  1. 1.
    the remaining part of something.
    “what do you want to do for the rest of your life?”
    • the remaining people or things; the others.
      plural noun: rest
      the rest of us were experienced skiers”
      synonyms: remainder, residue, balance, remaining part/number/quantity, others,those left, remains, remnant(s), surplus, excess;

      technicalresiduum
      “the rest of the board members are appointees”
verb
verb: rest; 3rd person present: rests; past tense: rested; past participle: rested; gerund or present participle: resting
  1. 1.
    remain or be left in a specified condition.
    “you can rest assured she will do everything she can to help her”
    synonyms: remain, continue to be, stay, keep, carry on being

    “you may rest assured that he is there”
Origin
late Middle English: from Old French reste (noun), rester (verb), from Latin restare‘remain,’ from re- ‘back’ + stare ‘to stand.’

So rest on my friends.

Allow time in your day to rest.

Schedule it if you have to.

Your soul depends on those moments of rest to be the strong, beautiful, powerful you that you are.

 

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Take time for rest. To at lest close your eyes for a moment, Breathe deeply and re center yourself as many times as needed throughout the day!

Until Next Time, Namaste,

XoXo TrishaTrixie

APRIL LOVE 2016: 06 Books

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Do something today that your future self

I live in two worlds. One is a world of books.

Dear Books,

You are so profound in my life that I had just had to find, make or create an image of a book with a rose or two on it for my mindfulness business. Juste Etre: Just Be resonates with this as a logo, a staple of my life as a passion for learning and growing in mindfulness.

You will never be replaced by technology as book lovers all over the globe will always honor you, hold you tightly, gently feel of you ancient pages and smell the wonder scent of old or used books.

I will never stop loving you and your pages.

Older books are my favorite but not just because they are more mature, yet because of their history, the inscriptions people leave inside you, the love and care you give to any pressed flower I put inside you to cherish and keep warm, the smell of an old book is a delight to my senses and and transport me to a journey into the past, the feeling of old ,

You old dusty pages in older books  makes me think about who may have owned the book before me, where did they read you. how did they care for you, why were they reading it-for school or pleasure, and how did they carry you and how many generations have you been passed down, did you travel or stay in America, and are you an original?

But dear books, do not fret, because I love new books too! In this tech age, I feel like I fight for you, I am willing to protest for you to be in schools and churches. I have become retro, ancient myself in my ways of desiring to read an actual book and not state at a flat little screen carrying around a tablet, that looks like something out of Star Trek. Though those online and techy table books are in style and becoming more popular, I still buy you and cherish you and add you to my libraries to be with your other friends.

I love nothing more than the touch, feel and smell of an older book. To feel it in my hands is a true delight. To physically be able to turn a page and feel the coarseness or softness of your pages.

I wonder, do you talk to each other at night? Do you tell of how great you are or do you cry that your owner does not pick you up and cherish you? Do you come off your shelf and go to the older book shelf to ask the old ones questions and learn from them so you can whisper knowledge back to your owner to be better, greater? Do you make fun of the smaller books, with less pages or do you tout about how long of a book you are or how intellectual of a book you are, sniding remarks at simple, more  unique books? Or do you all stand tall and proud, happy to be purchased, happy to be touched, used, cried on, earmarked, highlighted and written in?

These are all things I wonder about you books.

Because you are amazing to me.

You have the ability to take me to another world, to another lifetime, to a new awareness.

You have the ability to teach me so I may learn.

You have the ability  to touch my heart, my soul.

You have the ability to be a guide or an inspiration for me to not just cherish but share quotes and thoughts from you.

To me a book is something you can hold, tough, feel, smell. It is tangible. It is real.

Though others in Kindles and tablets may call you “books” to me they are but mere content online.

You will never be fully replaced by technology, because the books lovers of the worls will ALWAYS rise up i n your honor!

Thank you, dear books, for being there for me in all areas of my life from Spiritual, to Mental, to Physical to all area and needs of my life.

I love you.

I always have loved you.

I never will stop loving you.

You are amazing.

Always and forever in my heart.

The end.